“Classic” Leadership Mistakes to Avoid

There are some common mistakes that all leaders, new and veteran, should avoid.

First and most importantly, many leaders do not trust their team members and either micromanager the team or take on too much work themselves. Focus on outcomes, not how things happen. Don’t insist on being kept in the loop on the minutia—no one likes feel like they are being spied on.

Next is a symptom of the modern world and that is being overly connected. While often the characteristic of new leaders wanting to seem “in on” the digital revolution, many veterans may see over-connectivity as a way to make themselves seem still relevant and with the times.

Modern technology encourages not just leaders but employees to be tuned in all the time and never shut down from the work day. This can lead to what is being commonly called “hurry sickness”. This “disease” makes us feel that because of technology and being constantly connected we continually have to do more and do it faster.

For the leader, stretching oneself too thin over digital communication actually makes them less accessible, not more so. Likewise, do not expect this from team members, set clear boundaries for everyone and let the team know that the work day has a clear beginning and end.

The last mistake we will address is a “classic” in leadership discourse. That is, needing to be liked. Even in organizations that are almost 100% “just for fun” whoever is in charge is going to have to make decisions at times that are not popular among all team members. Even if this is your adult softball team or a Fortune 500 company.

Many new leaders misinterpret the respect and understanding they see team members giving other leaders as “being liked” or even friendship. While respect and understanding are not mutually exclusive from friendship or “being liked” they are far from the same thing.

More often than not in trying to please everyone, leaders will please no one. But if they make logical decisions that are best overall for the team and are based on the available facts of a situation that leader will earn respect and understanding even if a decision is not popular.

 

 

Why Good Team Members Leave (Talent Needs Nurturing)

All leaders in business and non-business organizations will have one of their best quit on them. Sometimes it’ll be obvious why, other times leaders will be left scratching their heads as to why one of their best and brightest is suddenly gone. Especially with the new trend of “ghosting” in our society—leaving suddenly and without explanation—leaders may want to heed the following thoughts.

While a seasoned leader probably wouldn’t make the classic mistake of overworking their best, which is tempting when a peer is particularly talented (why wouldn’t you want them on every project?). A leader might also under appreciate their best team member’s talent. These are some more obvious reasons someone might up and leave. Yet there are some less obvious reasons an employee might suddenly disappear. And it should be no surprise that these reasons are somewhat all a different side of the same issue.

First, make sure you are challenging your best team members. Those who aren’t being given work according appropriate to their talent. Sure, this employee will get the job done and probably in a timely fashion but piling on what feels like busy work will lead to boredom and force this talented person to seek challenges outside their comfort zone elsewhere.

Second, make sure you aren’t cramping their style. Top performers are passionate about their work and are always looking to expand their horizons. They’ll want to find new opportunities for development and explore new ideas. Don’t make it a hard and fast rule that they must focus only on the work they are given. Unsurprisingly, if they aren’t allowed to explore in their own manner, they probably aren’t being challenged either.

Don’t force your top performers to work in a certain way—they know what they are capable of and can handle not only assigned work, but additional opportunities. These are your future leaders and if not allowed to develop they will wither under poor conditions or seek opportunity elsewhere.

Third, sometimes it will be up to the group’s leader to provide the development opportunities. And this won’t be about learning skills alone but having learned new skills your best team members will want opportunities to put those skills into practice.

Talent needs nurturing and it is up to the team leader to make sure that is happening. Un-nurtured talent will seek the best opportunity to grow like a plant reaching for sunlight. Be the strongest source of light.

What Focus Means in Leadership

While many already realize that “focus” is a both a quality of leadership and something that good leaders provide to those they lead the traditional definitions of focus–those that make focus seem singular–might not be as useful a definition or a way of going about things as previously thought.

Some believe, in fact, that there are three essential kinds of focus for a leader. These kinds of attention can be grouped into three broad lenses: self-focus; focusing on others; and macro focus (focusing on the world at large).

Creating a triad of awareness will help a good leader foster emotional intelligence by looking inward to help themselves and outward to help others and will help them stay innovative and diverse in their thinking by keeping an eye on the where the world is headed.

Looking in only one of these directions provides little benefit and bucket loads of harm.
When focusing on yourself and looking toward your gut instincts be aware of where your motivations and influences are coming from—a piece of a literature, a parent, a friend, a mentor a historical figure? Examine the source to understand oneself. No man is an island, understanding yourself, your motivations and their possible pitfalls is essential to being a leader.

When looking to others a good leader needs to be able to understand another person’s perspective, to feel what someone else is feeling, and to be able to sense what it is they need. Help them do for themselves what you do for yourself when trying to understand your motivations and influences.

Looking out to the world and trying to anticipate what is coming will allow you and your team members to bring together what you have all found during your self-discovery and apply the best features of the team to try and innovate solutions that will work for a changing world.

When to Use Directive Leadership

While directive leadership isn’t in vogue these days, there are still some situations in which it might be the best route.

On the off chance that your group are new to an undertaking, they will require more noteworthy course as they learn. This is the point at which you ought to be more order, revealing to them how to do it. As your colleagues learn and create, you will never again need to screen their work so nearly.

Sooner or later, you might have the capacity to abandon them to work all the more self-rulingly. The less gifted your group is, the more probable they will require course to finish the work effectively.

At the point when there is an issue or crisis, time is of the substance. You can’t bear to settle on choices by panel in these conditions. This is the place mandate administration truly sparkles.

Order initiative may make you be somewhat sudden as you work to settle the issue, however regularly this is important to take care of an issue rapidly.

There are circumstances where you require individuals to pursue the principles and there can be no special cases. This is for the most part in regions like consistence or well being and security. In these cases, rules are set up for the well being of colleagues.

This additionally applies when you have models in your group that assistance work happen all the more successfully or to a base level of value. For instance, you may have required every day gatherings to comprehend what will occur on a specific day. Or on the other hand you may require data recorded especially to have the capacity to create reports.

It’s decent to be cooperative in basic leadership, on the grounds that everybody gets the chance to have their say. This takes longer than settling on the choice yourself, however can result in a result which everyone discovers more worthy.

Here and there when you endeavor to incorporate everybody in deciding, it delays the procedure. On the off chance that you counsel everyone in your group for a choice, it will take quite a while.

Helping Your Kids Become Leaders Part 1

We  need our kids to wind up leaders.

Regardless of whether they spend the main part of their days in the mailroom or the corner office, we need our kids to develop to be gutsy, enthusiastic. We need their activities to move other individuals to be their best, to get more out of life.

As guardians and overseers of youngsters, their way to leadership is in our hands. It’s a major duty—however when isn’t being a parent a huge obligation?

Focus on the ideas below, and you’ll create leadership in your kids and yourself.

Emotional energy is that “something” in every one of us that is somewhat impalpable; it influences how we oversee conduct, explore social complexities, and settle on close to home choices that accomplish positive outcomes.

Youngsters take in emotional energy from their folks. As your kids watch you consistently, they mimic your conduct. Youngsters are especially sensitive to your familiarity with feelings, the conduct you show because of your feelings, and how you respond and react to their feelings.

Parents get sucked into fixating on accomplishment since they trust that this will make their youngsters into high-achievers. Rather, focusing on accomplishment creates a wide range of issues for kids. This is particularly obvious with regards to authority, where concentrating on singular accomplishment gives kids the wrong thought regarding how function completes.

Basically, the best pioneers encircle themselves with extraordinary individuals since they know they can’t do only it. Accomplishment fixated kids are so centered around honors and results that they never completely comprehend this. Everything they can see is the player who’s given the MVP trophy and the superstar CEO who makes the news—they expect it’s about the person. It’s a severe shock once they find how genuine functions.

Kids require acknowledgement to know a sound feeling of confidence. Shockingly, heaping on the praise doesn’t give them additional confidence. Youngsters need to put stock in themselves and to build up the fearlessness required to end up fruitful pioneers, yet on the off chance that you spout each time they put pen to paper or kick a ball (the “everybody gets a trophy” attitude), this makes perplexity and false certainty. Continuously demonstrate your youngsters how pleased you are of their energy and exertion; simply don’t paint them as geniuses when you know it isn’t valid.

Tips for Leading by Example

You should demonstrate to your group by your own actions and not take a “Do as I say, not as I do” disposition. You will rapidly distance  yourself from your staff. In the event that your own expectations are high, they are more able to adjust to them. Check your own physical wellness, cleanliness and appearance before remarking on theirs. Try not to set your benchmarks higher than you will go yourself.

Show you will do a similar thing you ask of your workers/staff.

Be physically fit, all around prepared, and well dressed.

Foster hopefulness, serenity, and certainty.

Promote self motivation.

Offer challenges with your staff so they see you are ready to accept your offer of them.

Show your staff that you are the best in the position you are in.

Delegate expert and keep away from miniaturized scale administration and over-supervision of your staff.